My friend and fellow author April Yasmasaki asked some insightful questions for this interview about Marriage in the Middle. Here’s a short teaser. Please follow the link at the end to read it in its entirety.
I was struck by this part of your book:
If someone I barely know asks me how I’m doing, it’s not wise for me to divulge the blowup that Christopher and I had the night before. However, if we’re having dinner with long-time friends and I respond to that question with “We’re good!” that’s a problem.
Is that really a problem for every married couple?
There are two components here. One is personal and the other is universal to all believers.
Christopher and I feel that the Lord has invited us to vulnerably share our lives with others. Not everyone has this call. We don’t always enjoy it, and it’s not always easy to be trail blazers, especially in a new community. But after more than 25 years of leading groups and doing pastoral care, we know that when we choose to be vulnerable and honest, it makes a way for others to go there too.
If we want to grow and find healing for our wounds and addictions, we have to be honest with ourselves and others. That includes making proactive confession a regular part of our lives. I don’t think anyone gets a bye on that. Too often, we can present one curated version of ourselves online or in church on Sunday mornings, but live a very different reality. Confession helps us to be integrated and known by others. It’s very powerful when others know our sins and limitations and still love us.
To read the entire article, click this link.
And do follow April’s work. She’s deep waters!